I have never been one to change my mind about a lot of major things. Well, there was that wedding I canceled but that was a long time ago and, in the interest of trying not to change my mind, I let it rock on too long.
Anyway. I had the same major and minor all through college. My politics and religion have remained basically the same. I still like my husband and choice of kitchen counter tops better than any other.
This one time, when I was at Six Flag Over Georgia, I changed my mind about wanting to be on the Free Fall, though I am an adventurous rider of theme park rides. In fact, I screamed, "I HAVE CHANGED MY MIND," as it ascended into the air at what had to be a hundred miles an hour. Guess how much good changing my mind did me.
Two people who are very important to me changed their minds about something very major last week. And just so I am clear—these are two separate people, two separate life choices, two separate mind changings. Not a couple deciding to adopt a baby or get a divorce.
I have come up with some rules about mind changing.
This is what they do not need:
- I told you so.
- Well, that was wasted time.
- Boy, you have done it now. Do you realize what you have given up?
This is what they do need:
- I am proud of you for making this hard choice.
- If I can help, I will.
- You will be fine.
- You are not a failure or a quitter.
- I love you
- Have a drink.
- Have some chocolate.
I can promise you I have no regrets about that wedding cancelation. I regret not doing it sooner. I regret that I did not find a way to be kinder about it. But, apparently, I was holding out for The Guy. It was a good choice. And my erstwhile fiancé has got to be better off without me. After all, I didn't want him. No one deserves that. Well, some might. But he didn't.
Are you a mind changer?