Every once in a while I get surprised with a gift. You know the ones…I’m in the middle of sticking a meatloaf in the oven when the doorbell rings and the delivery guy from the florist is running from my house after having left a gorgeous bouquet on the porch. Or I show up for lunch with a friend and she has a little somethin’ somethin’ waiting at my place. We all love a little extra special love, right? I know I do.
But here’s the thing. Every time this happens, I can’t help but look at myself and think, “Wow, Lesia! When’s the last time you gifted anyone?” Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not a selfish sort. For instance, Christmas gifting is one of my favorite things to do. But random gifting? It never ever occurs to me! It’s like it’s just not in my wiring or something. Birthdays? Uh….hmm. You have one, right? Of course you do! Will I think of it? Not unless there’s a timer in my phone to alert me. That’s just sad, right? Okay, so I even forget my own wedding anniversary. There! It’s that bad! And….I’m truly embarrassed to say….I do have gifts for my sisters somewhere around here. I just never think to get them in the mail. That’s serious, right?
Now self-ruminating made me wonder….what makes a gifter gift? And this landed me on a book by Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages. Fascinating stuff in that series, but it did present an answer I could wrap my thoughts around. Gifters gift because that’s how they show they love you. Huh! Who knew?
So what are the other love languages you ask? According to Mr. Chapman they are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, and Touch. While I’m not exactly sure what my language is, I know for certain it t’ain’t no gifitn’ thang! (Okay, so maybe it has something to do with words….I’ve truly missed writing for y’all on a regular basis!)
How ‘bout you? I’m curious…do you gift or do you ruminate? :D