Okay, Listen Here

Okay, Listen Here

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Attraction Advice

So today at school some girls in my class were writing advice about dating on Post-it notes to share with their friends. Now you need to understand that in my class, writing is always good. I allow my students to pass notes as long as we aren’t testing and I am not at the front of the room teaching. I think that learning to express thoughts on paper is a good thing and note writing motivates them to write more-the Post-it notes makes it more fun. I look at any notes I see so they know not to use any swear words or mean language. I have already had some better writing this year as a result of this and I look forward to even more improvement.

So back to today…Jean and I are talking with some other writers about writing love scenes this weekend so love advice was sorta perking around in my brain already. Imagine my surprise when my students came up to my table to ask how to spell a word and I saw their notes. They were proud of them and happy to share them with me. One girl even told me that she had helped her 3rd grade teacher out when she was having a little trouble with her husband and that she would be happy to give me “man help” if I ever needed it.

Here are some of the ideas that my 4th graders thought would be good ideas of how to behave on a date:
1. Twirl your hair to the side of your head.
2. Laugh at some of the things he says.
3. Tell him you like his shirt.
4. When he asks you where you want to go, tell him it is his choice
(this is the word they needed-choice).
5. Ask him how his day was.
6. Be polite.
7. Don’t chew with your mouth open.
And my personal favorite 8. Let him pick up the check. It will make him feel good.

I was happy to see that romance is alive and well in the youth of America. This made me think long and hard about body language and the things I have read over the years that characters do to attract each other. There have been some doozies!!

What was the silliest action you ever read (or wrote) that was done to attract someone’s eye?


  1. This is my favorite "Okay Listen Here" post yet for obvious reasons! In my class I have a "No Notes" policy but that is because I have never seen a positive note and I've honestly never thought about it being used as a writing tool and I need to find out more info from you about this! However, if you could see some of the notes that my 10 - 12 year olds have written over the years.... Holy Cow... you would have to put a stop to it as well! Their notes are waaaaaay beyond anything I could have thought up at 14, let alone 10! Hahahah! Seriously Facebook me and tell me how you make this work in your room.

  2. Okay, I have a book that is the ultimate in what to do when stalking a man. I don't usually read first person books but this one caught my eye. It's "Fools Rush In" by Kristan Higgins. The poor girl in it started running (just to go past his house) and it's hilarious how sick she got. She plotted and schemed to be where he was and, when she finally got his attention, she found out she didn't want him! It was a very amusing book!

  3. Now that I've stopped laughing I have to say it's sad I can't remember anything I did to attract a man's attention because it's been nearly 40 years since I was trying to do it. However, once I'm un-hitched, I will be reviewing these choice tidbits so I can put them to use. I like #8 too, but I'll be considerate and not order the prime rib.

  4. This was a long long time ago. The young man who had caught my eye said he was going to give blood at a well advertised blood drive. I chimed in that I was too. He said he would pick me up and it turned into a date. I didn't end up with him but I did learn that I have rare blood and have no trouble giving it. So since then, I have given many many pints of blood. So I guess it was useful.

  5. Laurie-I will message you and we can talk about it.

    Cheryl-That sounds interesting. I wonder if I could pick up any single girl ideas from that book. lol

    Marilyn-Let me know if you need me to ask them for any other tips. :-)

    Jean-That's pretty funny. I don't think I have ever heard that story.

  6. The only note I can remember was the old stand-by: Do you like me? Check yes or no. Sounds like times have progressed since then. ;-D

    I haven't had a chance to post but I've been reading!
    Jean - love the pics!
    Cheryl - writer's block? I'll need a couch to talk about it! LOL
    Kathy - origami? I wish! I don't have a crafty bone in my body!

  7. Sherry-Yes the times they are a changin'

    Glad you have been reading!
    Good to hear from you.