Come a little bit closer you're my kind of man, so big and so strong....
These lyrics got me to thinking about proximity and courtship rituals.
Throughout history there have been many different courtship rituals that guide a lady's behavior when she sees a gentleman who catches her eye. I am sure that Kathy and some of the other historical authors can share more rituals from other cultures, but courtship rituals were clearly defined in Regency England. If everyone followed the rules then everyone else knew just where they stood in the whole courtship process. A dance or two could communicate both attraction and intention. Then there was the language of the fan. A lady could communicate by using just her fan. Wow, I wish I could do that!
As the resident single gal here under the tulip tree, I have got to tell you that things are NOT so simple now. Today many people meet their spouses while in college where every one mixes together and interacts repeatedly throughout the day. This interaction between the sexes continues day after day. If someone catches your eye you are bound to run into them in class or around campus.
This all changes as an adult. Unless you work with the person who catches your attention, in which case you are in much the same boat as a college student, you are just not going to run into the object of your interest easily. I think this may be one reason that there are so many online dating sites. Today, singles don't have any clear cut ways to signal their interest to each other so online dating sites provide a way to pave the path to a relationship.
When writing contemporary, this can also be an issue. How do you arrange proximity and/or interaction between your hero and heroine? Let's say they bump into each other while shopping or at the gym. How do you get them from smiling and nodding at each other because they recognize a familiar face to actually have a conversation and/or spending time together?
I will admit that I am struggling with this a bit. I tend to think that if a fellow is interested in dating me that he should pursue but when a guy catches my eye how can I signal Come a little bit closer you're my kind of man? What are some things you have done or had your heroine do to catch a guy's eye or encourage him to make a move?
The person with the best suggestion will win a prize to be awarded next Thursday so help a girl out!!