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Sunday, May 12, 2013

A Mother's Love

Today is Mother’s Day, May 12, 2013.  I find myself reflecting once again on who I am, where I come from, what I’m made of.  I can hardly go there without thinking on my mother Norma Jean and Grannie.  Both have many years past now and pulled that earthy blanket up to their chins to wish us all a good night.  I miss them, the buggars!

Anyway, first off, I have to say this about memories.  Doc M, Sister, and I have three very different sets of memories.  It would seem we weren’t sisters at all with how different they are.  But with Doc M a bit older, I understand her perspective should be different.  But Sister and I?  We’re Irish Twins, for cryin’ out loud!  You’d think we could agree on one memory, right?  Probably not.  I finally came to grips with this when someone explained to me that memories are filtered through our emotions.  Ahha!  That explains it. We are polar opposites when it comes to our emotions, she and I.  But still, it doesn’t keep us from asking each other from time to time, “Where did you come from?”  Hahaha!

I think there are two memories we can all agree on.  One, Norma Jean was a serious romance-book-aholic!  I can’t remember a night of my life in her house that she didn’t go to bed with one.  And many a night was there that we found her with a paperback tented over her breasts, glasses askew and her snores reaching to high heavens.  Little did I know back then that it would be one of my favored memories of her. 

Why, you ask?  Because I was the bane of her existence when it came to reading.  I hated it!  Jack London’s Call of the Wild, Beverly Cleary’s Ramona the Pest, Wilson Rawls’ Where the Red Fern Grows?  Hated all of them.  Oh the books Norma Jean presented to me, every single one of which I slung right back at her.  Ack!  I couldn’t even get past chapters one.  In fact, the only author I would have anything to do with until I was twelve years old was Don Freeman.  Oh how I loved (still do) his stories, especially Dandelion.  But that’s it.  No other books.  None.  Zero.  That is, until… (You know it!) that lovely little red and white covered Harlequin showed up on my lap.  Frankly, I think she dropped it there in disgust at me and said something like, “This is the last straw.  I don’t know what else to give you to read, child.”

Amazingly, I read chapter one.  Then two.  And three and four and …all the way to the end.  And then I asked for another.  And another.  And another.  And then she gave me my very own subscription to Harlequin Romance.   It was a brand new world for me and I knew who I was then.  I was a romance junkie.  My engine had been jumpstarted and there was an endless supply of stories in my soul.
From there on out when we would travel to my grandparents I would imagine stories to write.   Sadly I couldn’t read in the car or else I’d throw up everywhere.  So I would think about the stories I’d read and make up my own.  They were simple stories, boy meets girl, they fall in love, you know the drill.  But they were stories that entertained me just the same.  And that was the beginning of my lifelong passion for love and romance and telling stories.  With that, I learned to love to read because reading was the vehicle for receiving the love.  This was the greatest love my momma loved me with, she taught me to enjoy reading by helping me find what I loved to read.  Bless her heart.  She should get special Mamma Rewards in heaven for that, don’t you think?  Lord knows I tried her patience!

My second memory I think the three of us can agree on is one of Grannie.  Grannie was a gardener and a fisherwoman.  She could grow something in concrete and catch a fish out of the toilet, yes she could!  Granted, she was a lot of other things too, but those two were constants.  Anyway, it seemed that flowers were the preferred expression of love between the women in our family, and in my perspective it was by Grannie’s leadership that it became that way.  When a holiday arrived, flowers were given.  And Mother’s Day was a full bouquet of love.  I remember the joy Norma Jean would have over surprising Grannie with an heirloom rose bush or some other coveted bloom.  It seemed there was a rhythm to their exchanges, a time proven love for each other through these flowers.  Sadly, I left home and didn’t grow into that role with them, but I remember it.  And I’ve tried to resurrect it in my own family.  I have hydrangeas my girls gave me for Mother’s Day a few years back adorning the back side of my house like they did Grannie’s.  And maybe this year I’ll get those Knock Out Rose bushes I asked for for under the dining room windowsill.  But one thing’s for sure.  Every time I look at the flowers in my yard, I remember the love between the women I came from.  And I will give thanks for the love they gave to me. 

Happy Mother’s day y’all.
I hope the day blooms lots of love for you, too!


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  2. Oops! I accidentally deleted Chuck's post. Here it is again. My response will be afterwards.

    It is a wonderful tradition for sure. For some reason, probably because I've done some honest soul-searching recently, this occurred to me.

    At least with Mom's I know, you of course the most, if for some reason she has to turn her attention to her children on a day meant to celebrate her and only her, yes she'll do it, no questions asked. Her children are always in the hedging of her heart, this just can't be turned off(thank God for that!). And, this is what pieced itself together:

    A father plants a seed and may or may not be committed to provide the best environment for it to develop. But, the Mom is committed, period. A Mom has to till, attend, nourish, and ultimately toil like only a Mom would understand to bring forth the miraculous variegated blossom called a baby; When this happens, there is joy she radiates that you just have to be in her presence and you'll never forget it. Oh, and just to be completely clear, it's not just birth Moms; a Step-Mom, a Grandmother that becomes a Grand-Mom, etc still have to till, attend, nourish, and ultimately toil to bring forth a strong, healthy, loving adult, which is commitment that spans years, too, just not the obvious nine months. Equally, there is joy deep down for the life she nourished even after the child is able to sustain itself outside the hedges of the home; forever within the hedges of her heart.

    So at the core with this tradition of flowers on Mother's Day. Does it seem so perfect because it is just like the wonder of bringing a completely unique vibrant child(you sure did...twice) into and then out to the world ? It is a birthing of thrilling beauty. You just inspired me with your blog, you write so fresh...so I'm thinking who better to bring living, nourishing color to refill fresh wonder in our world than a Mom. One just like you, Lesia

    1. Thank you, Chuck. It is a lovely correlation you made between the raising of children and the tradition of flower giving. I'd never thought of it that way before. I wonder if Mother and Grannie thought that, too?

  3. Ahhh, Chuck's comment was so sweet!

    In my family there were always a great deal of reading going on. In fact, my first ever Harlequin reading was done sneaking my granny's book while she was napping.

    My mother loves to get flowers for her garden. She always has. Now she will walk around her garden with the grandchildren and tell what occasion the different flowers and shrubs were given for!

    Be sure to tell us if you got the roses you hoped for!

  4. Oh! I love that your momma tells the events to the kiddos! How wonderful for them, for her!

    And no, I got a beautiful pink peony to plant outside my office window. But rest assured, I will have three bright pink or red knock out rosebushes planted before the end of the week....a Happy! Happy! to myself! :D