Stephanie, Jean, Kathy, Cheryl and Lesia, thanks for having me on your blog today! Since we just celebrated Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d talk a little about writing about love.
As some of you know, I write inspirational romance for Harlequin Love Inspired. In fact, my fifth book, A House Full of Hope, just released this month! And a lot of people who read romance novels have asked me how I can write realistic romance if I don’t write love scenes or even much physical attraction in my stories.
How? I focus on the emotion.
I do try to make sure the characters are attracted from the first moment. And, sure, unless they have a past together, the attraction is purely physical at that point. But once I get beyond that, I work toward showing how they fall in love. I try to:
--Show them discovering traits they like about the other (ie. honesty, generosity, humor) even while they’re in conflict. This is often done begrudgingly!
--Show their growing respect for each other.
--Show them enjoying time spent together.
--Show them overcoming obstacles together, which makes them grow even closer.
--And in the end, show them sacrificing for each other, for their love.
Sure, in real life, as we fall in love, there’s a sizzle of attraction and awareness. I just have to dance around it carefully in my books, keeping it understated and focusing on the emotions. And honestly, for me personally, it’s easier for me to write that way knowing that my kids and church friends will be reading. :)