tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post4635706983630901600..comments2024-02-02T00:22:18.479-06:00Comments on Okay, Listen Here: What I've Learned about MarriageStephanie Jones AKA Alicia Hunter Pacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03023631488715031414noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-80711172087090953542011-06-14T21:30:03.887-05:002011-06-14T21:30:03.887-05:00Aw, this is so sweet, Jean. You two are the cutest...Aw, this is so sweet, Jean. You two are the cutest couple ever.Melanie Dickersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09752176517296691824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-24905932174544210072011-06-14T15:29:56.584-05:002011-06-14T15:29:56.584-05:00Aw, I love the guy, Jean! He's so good to you...Aw, I love the guy, Jean! He's so good to you, even if he's got a slight instruction book. Don't they all? ;)<br /><br />LTC is very much like the guy. He used to say, "he robbed the cradle because he couldn't find a woman like he wanted. Decided to raise one, instead." LOL! Guess he can't complain too much that I've finally grown up and decided what I want to do with my life... write.<br /><br />We've been married 29 years and have known each other 31. We're doing something right! ;)Katherine Bonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701961380138616355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-82452909055927663362011-06-13T18:46:15.756-05:002011-06-13T18:46:15.756-05:00Cheryl--A relationship certainly is a job--I hope ...Cheryl--A relationship certainly is a job--I hope a good one!<br /><br />Stephanie--That which does not change, dies or get stale. Wait. How can that be? If it doesn't change how could it die? I'll get back to you on that.<br /><br />Marilyn--Barry and CB--Mos def, as the girls in cabin nine from Kerrelyn's fan letter said. But he is a keeper. I am lucky. <br /><br />Gwen--Just remember to keep liking each other. Love is easier than like and like is essential. <br /><br />Lynn--I'm with you. It's amazing we've done so well so long. Say a prayer and knock wood!Alicia Hunter Pace (aka Jean Hovey and Stephanie Jones)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13844329805282121486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-65687121758503260812011-06-13T10:26:03.880-05:002011-06-13T10:26:03.880-05:00Jean, this is priceless! I love it! What have I ...Jean, this is priceless! I love it! What have I learned in 26 years with the same man (yes, I was a child bride, and I'm actually counting from when we met, not married)?<br /><br />We don't speak the same language. Even when we think we understand the words coming out of each others mouths, there's a good chance we don't. Men really are from Mars.<br /><br />The one that drives me crazy is that basket of laundry (or choose your item) sitting there that he will pass every day without seeing. It's still hard to accept, but you're right, they won't ever see it.<br /><br />Like you, I do not pack for my husband. I also do not iron his clothes. He's better with the iron than I am anyway. I will, if he's running behind and asks me to, but mostly it's his job.<br /><br />I'm not quite sure how we've managed to stay together this long, but we must be doing something right. Like Cheryl said, it's a job. You can't ever get complacent about it and think this relationship is so solid it'll never break. It can and will if you don't put energy into it. No one wants to be ignored or taken for granted.<br /><br />It really is all about compromise, isn't it?Lynn Raye Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823590040842807378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-47265699719515020772011-06-13T09:42:21.388-05:002011-06-13T09:42:21.388-05:00It is comforting, being newly married, to know tha...It is comforting, being newly married, to know that other people have similar issues, and work them our just fine too. There are enough bad relatinships about to be horrified by, I like seeing how the good ones work.Gwennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-19199696940380145852011-06-13T09:41:54.783-05:002011-06-13T09:41:54.783-05:00I'll go see Barry Manilow with you! And we ca...I'll go see Barry Manilow with you! And we can eat at Cracker Barrel on the way to the concert!<br /><br />I'm not going to go off on another divorce rant and bore y'all. Suffice it to say I now have serious trust issues with men.<br /><br />Sticky notes, blister packs, JC Penney and all, you've got a keeper.<br /><br />Marilyn (who will be humming Copacabana all day now)Playground Monitorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07444337591281145863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-57861445379595164342011-06-13T08:53:40.546-05:002011-06-13T08:53:40.546-05:00Relationships are constantly changing. I guess th...Relationships are constantly changing. I guess this is because the people in the relationships are constantly changing as well. That has probably been the biggest lesson that I have had to learn about relationships of all types.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018633413564074437.post-31504963683188585402011-06-13T06:47:53.536-05:002011-06-13T06:47:53.536-05:00Compromise - a hard word for me to accept. I have...Compromise - a hard word for me to accept. I have learned that you have to give in, sometimes, and meet on the middle ground. I am with you on the getting ready part. I can shower, blow dry my hair, curl my hair, put on makeup, get dressed and I will STILL be waiting on him to get dressed. I also never pack for my hubby and I do not help him load the car (I can't arrange the suitcases in the trunk correctly - as if it matters).<br /><br />The biggest lesson is that you can never stop being interested in each other's lives. You can't fall prey to a comfortable relationship (falling asleep in the recliners at night without talking). You have to keep working at it or you will lose whatever brought you together. Kind of like a job. LOLCherylnoreply@blogger.com